Your little one is gaining more and more independence now as they learn how to use their body and control their movements. This means there is bound to be some spills and tumbles as they perfect their skills in becoming better coordinated. Finding the balance between being protective but still allowing them to explore can be really difficult. Make sure the areas where your baby plays are safe and child friendly. For the next couple of years, you will need to place precious items up high and ensure heavy objects are secured. Although baby proofing your home may change its appearance, it is far more important to have a safe environment and one where you feel your baby can play safely.
Feeding and Sleeping
At ten months, many babies reduce from 3 to 2 daytime sleeps. The morning sleep can often occur at around 9 – 10am after an early morning wake up and some breakfast. Tired signs at this age are fairly consistent and include yawning, grizzling, wanting more cuddles or even falling asleep during play. But 10 month old babies tend to be quite vocal as well and can protest when they want to stay up. It usually helps for parents to stay calm and focused and try to follow the same regular pre-settling routine for both day and night sleeps.
Milk is still an important component of your 10 month old’s diet but solid foods are equally vital now. Try not to limit your baby’s intake by always offering them the same foods. Be imaginative and creative and cook for them yourself. Home cooked foods generally taste better and have a lumpier consistency than processed foods. From 1 year onwards, most babies limit the range of foods they will eat, so if your little one is already used to a diverse variety of foods, their diet won’t become as restricted.
This is a social age so look for your baby’s responses when they are exposed to other people. They will search for their eyes first, then their mouth and ears and scan their whole face with their eyes. So much information is being gathered by their senses that it is no wonder they still need to have a couple of daytime sleeps. Your baby’s brain is at its most receptive now and will literally be moulded by the experiences they have. You cannot change your baby’s personality or their temperament, but you can support them to feel secure and safe in their little world. You are still number 1 in your baby’s life just now, so if you feel they need you and sometimes just want some reassurance and cuddles, then follow your heart. Parenting is not an exact science and there is rarely one right way to approach it.
If your baby isn’t too keen on playing with other babies, don’t worry. They are so egocentric at this age, that they will be incapable of considering another baby’s feelings. You will need to keep a close eye on them when they are with other children and animals because they are simply too young to know what sort of behaviour is appropriate and safe.
Your baby is likely to be crawling well now and can get themselves around in their own unique way. Some experts believe that crawling is strongly linked with learning ability as a child matures, because the opposite leg and arm movements involved help to link the right and left hemispheres of the brain. Walkers are no longer recommended as they limit the opportunity to crawl. They are also a safety hazard. There is no better place for your 10 month old than to get up close and personal with your floor. Which means you’ll need to play close attention to keeping the floor surfaces relatively clean, at least for a few months.
Your baby may be able to pull themselves up to stand or even cruise around the furniture this month. They will easily be able to get themselves into a sitting position from their tummy and rotate their bodies, swivelling their arms and legs with the greatest of dexterity.
Listen for your baby when they learn to say mama, dada, and papa. It’s no accident that in most of the world’s languages the names for mothers and fathers and even babies relate to these early words. Teach your baby to wave ta ta this month, play more peek-a-boo and chaseing games. Your baby will try to initiate games with you and engage you in activities which they find so entertaining. Although you may run out of interest before they do, repetition is an important concept in helping to consolidate memory and recall.
Your baby will be getting close to tripling their birth weight by now and close to 12 months, this is a common event. Babies all grow at their own individual rate and genetics is a major influence on size and growth. But it is also a child’s environment and food intake which play a major role in growth. If you are worried that your baby is not eating sufficient food to grow as they need to, have them reviewed by your paediatrician or GP. Occasionally, specialist paediatric nutrition advice is warranted, especially when a baby is failing to thrive.
If it is summer, you are less likely to notice your baby’s growth reflected in their clothing. But you may use their cot, their pram or how they position themselves in your arms as a guide to how big they are getting. One day you may just look at your baby and be surprised by how big they have become. This can be very obvious when comparing them with a newborn and seeing just how much of a transformation they have undergone since they were new themselves. The rate of growth in this first year as well as during adolescence is never higher.
It will be impossible to keep your baby too clean at 10 months. If you’re out they’ll be keen to get on the ground which can make things awkward if you’re at the park or in the garden. Get into the habit of taking their pram everywhere you go. Assume everything in the near vicinity will find its way into your baby’s mouth and you won’t be far wrong.
Consider the cleaning products you use in your house, the pesticides, fertilizers and general household products. Residues can pose a risk to health so be extra cautious with what comes into your house and finds its way into the cleaning cupboard.
Play and Interaction
This is the month when you may want to redesign your household to create safe zones your baby can access. Gates across doorways can be an excellent way of keeping them out of harm’s way. If you have older children who value their personal space, a gate across their room can minimize emotional outbursts. Your baby is likely to want to join in what everyone else is doing now so keeping them separate from the rest of the children will be impossible. There is so much value and learning gained when children of different ages are exposed to each other. Siblings often need to negotiate their way around each other’s needs and preferences and this starts at a very young age.
Watch your baby as they will their older siblings to engage with them. Babies are very skillful at drawing attention to themselves and have been described as “sensory traps”. It’s not just adults who fall for their charms!
What About Mum?
At 10 months there should be more of a pattern or structure to your day now which will help with planning. If you still feel yourself struggling to get through each day, consider having a thorough check-up with your GP. Genuine medical problems can be disguised by extreme tiredness and it can be too easy to overlook our own needs. Arrange someone to care for the baby while you go for your appointment. If you find your memory is not as good as you’d like, write down a list of the symptoms you are experiencing.
If you are not well and healthy you won’t be in the best condition to care for your baby. By ten months you should be feeling a return of your energy levels without a sense of overwhelming fatigue. Problems which include the thyroid, endocrine system and nutritional deficiency can all impact on energy levels.
If you are becoming resentful about having to do most of the housework, don’t feel alone. Most women say they do the majority of housework and child care even if and when they have returned to paid employment. Speak honestly with your partner about what would be a fair and equitable arrangement when it comes to keeping the house in order.
Your Sleep Needs
Don’t be too quick to jump out of bed when your baby cries overnight. If you are satisfied that they have been fed, are safe and comfortable and there is no evident reason for them to need you, hold back a little. Given the opportunity to self soothe and settle; many babies at 10 months do just that.
Don’t neglect your own comfort needs. Make the time to change your own bed linen, sort out your clothing and de-clutter your room if you can. Invest some time and thought into what could create a soothing environment – the children should not absorb all of your energies. Even if the rest of the house is messy, it’s so important to have somewhere to retreat to at the end of the day.